TODAY,
I got a chance to talk to Simon Ellison 35, about over coming
one of mans worst fears: 'Erectile Dysfunction' (ED).
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
EA:
SE:
Hiya Simon, Would you like to introduce
yourself?
Certainly. I'm Simon Ellison I'm 35 years old and have been
impotent for the last 6 years.
29 seems fairly young?
Yes, but I blame it on my job. I'm in the Navy- very high
up. My job although very enjoyable- is very stressful. It
takes a lot out of me. At the time I was married- I'm divorced
now. Due to work and ED my marriage went down hill. Looking
back- that could have been a good thing.(sighs) but it's still
a shame.
How did your condition make you feel?
ED made me feel very weak. I had no confidence- this feeling
quickly spread to other parts of my life- my marriage and
work began to suffer. Everyone began to notice the change
in me.
Weren't you scared?
Scared! Terrified more like! I couldn't understand why. Why
me? I felt very angry and worried at the same time. So confused.it
felt like a part of me had died..
Worried.
I was worried about my wife..wondering when she would notice...waiting
for her to say something about the situation.wondering whether
she'd go elsewhere.
What was the worst thing for you about the situation?
I am a person who is highly energetic- I love to be involved
in everything and anything is a challenge-I don't give up
till I succeed. Can you imagine what it was like finding out
I was impotent? Finding that a part of me didn't work was
so hard-and it happened when I was fairly young-that made
the situation worst-it affected everything- my job, my outlook-I
became highly depressed-I felt I had no one to talk to. I
became increasingly frustrated, both sexually and mentally.
I knew I needed to take action-but it was so hard...but it
got a lot easier as time went on...
What was the first step you took?
The first and probably the hardest step I took was admitting
the problem to myself- after I had admitted this I could then
go on to help myself.
What about your partner?
After I had admitted it to myself, I then went on to admit
it to Mandy, my wife. This wasn't actually that hard- by this
time the situation had got so bad she had realised that something
pretty serious must be up.
How did she react?
Mandy was fantastic. We are still great, close friends. We
only divorced about 18 months ago. Mandy really supported
me; she comforted me and totally took the lead. This was exactly
what I needed-She told that it didn't matter-I had done the
hardest thing- admitting it her and myself and the rest would
follow and fall into place.
What happened next?
From this point on Mandy took charge of me and looked after
me. She told me that it didn't matter and that we were a team...that
together we would fight and sort out the problem. Together
we began researching into solutions...We also went to see
a councillor
Did that help you?
Yes, it did. It enabled me to put the whole thing in proportion.
I realised that I wasn't the only open who was suffering there
are many more out there-not as lucky as I was. It also pointed
me in the right direction. The councillor gave us many pointers
as to what step to take next.
What was that next step?
Mandy and I began researching on the Internet. I'd heard of
Viagra-but didn't know anything about it-it just seemed to
be the butt of everyone's jokes. Mandy then suggested that
we went to the Doctors-just to ask about it- to find out whether
I was suitable candidate for the drug.
Was it hard to take this step?
No not really..by this time I'd already been to see the councillor.
My Doctor has been my Doctor for the last 10 years- I see
him as more of a friend than a Doctor. He helped me considerably.
He explained all about Viagra and the pros and cons. He then
screened tests to see if I was suitable for taking the drug-which
I was!
Go on..
Well I started taking Viagra and the Viagra Experience just
simply took hold of me. It was fantastic- it was like a new
lease of life. Confidence came flooding back. It was like
a second Honeymoon. That first night I was so nervous- it
was so special it was like consummating our marriage all over
again. I was warned that it might not work-but I had to give
it a try-I'll give anything a try once. I began to feel much
more positive about myself-the change in my life has been
amazing.
Could you tell me about these changes?
Mandy and I got divorced about 18 months ago. We're still
great friends and I will always be so grateful to her. We
just out grew each other. I have a serious girlfriend at the
moment, we live together. She's 4 months pregnant- can you
believe that? One drug has given me so much-it's changed my
life so much.
Finally Simon, what's your advice for other men?
My advice is simple-just tell someone and take the first step.
The results are life changing- my life is evidence of that...